I believe it all started when I entered university, the way my personality developed. Let's just say I wasn't the typical student choosing the typical courses and doing the typical things. When I started work, I again avoided the mainstream path i.e. what other people expected me to be or do. Even into marriage and parenthood, WX and I made certain unpopular and out of the norm decisions. Sometimes it's hard to stick to those values and principles when your life seems to be very different from even your closest friends. You tend to wonder if you're making the right choices and decisions.
I've a very rare personality type - perhaps that is why I always end up making the 'rare' decisions. I'm an INFJ, which makes up less than one percent of the population. And it seems the decisions I make always need to have a cause, and living up to my values and principles is important.
But that doesn't mean I don't get swayed. I got a little sidetracked recently. Thankfully, the good thing is the other half was there to direct my line of sight back to what we believe in and our togetherness as a family - and that has brought me back to what truly matters.