Ever since the children came along, I got to learn a lot of new acronyms like SAHM, FTWM, PTWM, WAHM, and now some people like to add on - with a domestic helper, with no domestic helper, with help of in-laws, etc. During my mother's time, it was simple - housewife or not housewife. That's it. Now everyone likes to complicate matters, bring in theories, philosophies, debates, blah blah blah.
No doubt there are a lot of times I get caught up with these definitions too and I find it very unhealthy to label myself or anyone with these divisive acronyms. It distracts us from who we are essentially as a person, a wife, a mother, a daughter, a friend. We are all facing similar issues with our children too. The mom who is working full time and the mom who is staying at home, all have children who will wake up in the night looking for comfort. After reading an article from Ing, called "I am a Mom. That's Who I Am", I finally could let go of the nagging connotations of those acronyms that secretly haunt me.
We all know, our working status, doesn't define us as mothers. Don't judge ourselves nor others critically. Ultimately, purpose in your heart to honour God and everything will fall into place. Whatever decision you make as a mom, do it because you want to and what works best for your family. And then do it to the best effort, without any regrets. Not because of external pressures but because you love yourself and your family. And finally, work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. Shalom :)