A long 6 month hiatus from blogging and I’m back. Most people start the year off with a bang, I started the year off with a break because of a series of events. The second half of 2015 and the first few weeks of 2016 were difficult. I had 2 miscarriages back to back, and then my grandpa passed away, my last grandparent in my family.
It’s interesting how when you suffer from a miscarriage, you immediately want to keep it quiet to yourself and people around you who know want to keep it hush too. I was wondering about that kind of reactive behaviour. Perhaps it’s because it’s a very personal and a private experience. But I realised the deeper reasons for me were guilt and shame.
When the miscarriages happen, the first thing I said to myself was,
It was my entire fault.
I was the one carrying the life.
I was responsible for that life.
And the guilt and condemnation worsens when well meaning friends (whom I appreciate a lot in every way) try to comfort me,
You haven’t been taking care of yourself enough.
You have been over exerting your body.
You haven’t been eating enough vitamins.
I wished that were all true, then I know what can be done to prevent the miscarriages. But unfortunately, the doctor says, they were random occurrences that could not be explained because I have 2 children already. And that made me think,
Perhaps God doesn’t want me to have any more children.
During these 6 months, I’ve been resting and pondering, pondering and resting. Meditating over this simple verse we usually learn when we become a new believer,
“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death.” Romans 8:1-2
I didn’t cause the miscarriages and certainly God didn’t.
Then one Sunday morning, I heard Pastor Charles Nieman speak about the passing away of his wife and how he had been coping. He shared about a verse that we are all too familiar with,
“I am the Alpha and the Omega, says the Lord God, who is and who was, and how is to come, the Almighty.” Revelations 1:8
Jesus is in my beginnings and endings. He was there during the conception, he was there during the miscarriage. He was in it with me though it all, therefore there is no condemnation, no guilt and no shame.
He is in my new beginnings and he is in my endings no matter what experiences they are. And therefore I have hope because my hope is in Jesus.
I’ve asked God one more thing, I asked Him what is the purpose of this experience,
To bring hope to others. To bring Jesus to them.
I hope you feel encouraged by my sharing, I pray you will always hope in Him because He is in our every beginning and ending, in every moment, in the same instant.
P.S. I’m giving away the postcard featured in this post and 2 others that I will be sharing in my Instagram. If you will like a set for yourself, or for a friend, do leave me a comment or email me and I’ll get in touch with you. Shalom!